Making the most of your Q&A Calls 

My name is Amy, and I’m the Lead Clinician and Head of Programs for MRW. I’m also
the person who allocates the questions for the Q&A calls. The calls are where you’ll find
the gold! This is where you practice applying the content. Let me share some tips for
asking questions…

Make the most of this time by submitting questions for every call. The important thing to
remember is you can’t get it wrong—unless you don’t ask a question.

Here is some information that will make it easier for you to come up with questions:

• Each breakout room varies to some degree every call depending on the
  questions that have been submitted.
• We have rooms in these three areas: Mindset, Gottman skills, and Clinical
  Psychology (attachment, trauma, anxiety, depression, etc).
• You can request certain coaches/clinicians but please note that I will always put
  you in the best room based on your question so that may mean a different coach
  or clinician than you requested.
• Not every coach/clinician is on every call.
• Questions don’t have to be perfectly formulated. I encourage you to include only
  pertinent details so your questions are clear and concise. Remember, you’ll be
  able to add important context during the call.

Here are a few examples of LIVE questions. With questions answered in person
you don’t need to provide as many details as you do for absent questions
because you’ll be there to give context.

Gottman:

• Can you explain the antidotes to the 4-Horsemen?
• How do you rebuild trust after betrayal?
• I can’t seem to communicate my needs without my partner becoming defensive.
  How can I better communicate?
• I’d like to be in one of the Gottman rooms to work on my gentle start-up.
• My partner and I struggle to talk about intimacy. I’d like guidance on how to do
  this better for both of us.
• I’d like to practice a Rapaport.
• My partner and I are struggling with parenting. We don’t seem to agree on much.
• I’d like to practice a Dreams within Conflict conversation.
• How do I turn toward my partner when there is so much hurt between us?
• I have a lot of childhood wounds and want to set healthy boundaries to heal our
  relationship more quickly. What do you recommend?
• I see the exhausted pursuer/pursuer distancer dynamic in our relationship. I also
  see avoidant attachment. Wondering how the two can be related.
• I am struggling to find the right balance of pursuing him, making bids, sharing fondness and appreciation vs. giving him emotional space.

Clinical Psychology:

• I am working on recognizing when my inner child shows up and how. As well as
  how to meet her needs with kindness.
• Perfectionism
• I’ve noticed my partner and I have different attachment styles. How do I navigate
  our different attachment styles?
• I’d like to talk about how my past trauma may be affecting my relationship.
• I’m struggling with emotion regulation which I think may be related to my anxious
  attachment. I’d like help on this.
• How can I build a new “highway” in my brain to not worry? I don’t want to worry,
  but it happens that I wake up at night worrying over small things.

• I need help breaking out of old patterns.
• Flooding/emotional overwhelm/blurting
• I’m struggling to stay in my Wise Woman and would like mindset help.
• Shadows
• I could use some help trying to figure out how to lower my protective walls so I
  could be more vulnerable and we could move forward.

TIP: The easiest way to come up with questions is to write down questions that come
up as you go through the content. Keep it in one place so you can easily find your
questions for calls. And, again, remember, you can’t get it wrong.

ABSENT QUESTIONS:
If you can’t attend a call, you can submit an “absent question”. For absent questions, be
sure it’s clear and contains enough detail for the coach or clinician to provide a
meaningful answer since you won’t be there to provide additional information. At the
same time, keep it focused.


Enjoy your calls!
Amy, Meg, and the MRW Team